Avoiding the Top 5 Deathbed Regrets

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by Jeff Berwick: Panopticon
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Bronnie Ware,
a palliative care nurse recently wrote an article encompassing her
experiences of numerous conversations with those on their deathbed
and their regrets. It occurred to us that many of those regrets
can be relieved or lessened by a lifestyle that we advocate here
at TDV.

take a look at each:

1. I wish
I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the
life others expected of me.

She goes on
to say, “it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled.
Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had
to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not
made. It is very important to try and honor at least some of your
dreams along the way.”

This is probably
the #1 regret of TDV readers as well. We can’t count the amount
of emails we get where people tell us they have always wanted to
live in another country or culture but they never do it… for
a variety of reasons. But, the reasons are mostly unimportant in
the grand scheme of things. They usually pertain to fear. But it
is important to recognize that a fear of foreign cultures is instilled
in most of us through propaganda. The nightly news in most western
countries tries to make the world look as scary as possible. Take
for example this recent headline, “Mexican
Swine Flu Outbreak Kills 29, Infects Nearly 1,500
”. Wow,
you might think! We better cancel that trip to Mexico! But the total
amount of people killed in the US every year from “regular”
flu-associated deaths ranged from a low of about 3,000 to a high
of about 49,000 people according
to the CDC
. Where is the “US Flu Outbreak Kills 10,000+,
Infects Millions” headline?

2. I wish
I didn’t work so hard.

This regret
is so prevalent in the west because western governments have made
a point of working their tax slaves to death. First, they take a
massive amount of your income. Ask yourself, if you had to pay no
tax would you have the ability to spend more time with your family
or doing non-work related activities? The obvious answer is yes.
Then, through the scourge of central banking, they slowly inflate
away (though
sometimes very quickly
) most people’s savings and engender
an economy where those who own the assets usually gain on those
who work for wages, making the tax hamsters run faster. Pre-1970s
abandonment of the gold standard and the resulting stagflation,
a single income could support a family, now due to radical feminist
influence and rampant inflation in taxation and housing, two parents
are required to work and children are shuffled off to daycares and
government indoctrination camps at a young age to endure for 20+
years of "education". And this is also not to mention
the cubicle lifestyle so popular in the west and the long soul-draining
commutes that are also common.

The best way
to not work so hard and to have the ability to spend more time with
your loved ones is to live outside of this system. In our letter
we often talk about ways to build your business outside the western
world where the opportunities are usually far greater, regulation
is non-existent and taxes are much lower and sometimes zero. In
past issues of TDV we’ve shown you how to become a hotelier
in Mexico without having to put any money down and in last month’s
issue of TDV we showed you how you could become a private banker
in Cambodia and garner interest income from 36% to 120% per annum.

When you don’t
have the massive crush of taxes and regulation it is amazing how
quickly you can build wealth.

3. I wish
I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Bronnie Ware
states, “…when you change the way you are by speaking
honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and
healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship
from your life. Either way, you win.”

We couldn’t
agree more. You can call TDV what you want, but you can’t accuse
us of not expressing our opinions no matter how unpopular they are
with the masses.

4. I wish
I had stayed in touch with my friends.

This is a common
refrain we hear from those who are tentative about expatriation.
However, as someone who has been a global citizen for nearly 10
years, I can offer some interesting perspective on this issue.

Your circle
of “friends” can and should be constantly evolving. For
example, I deleted most of my “friends” from Facebook
when they announced their participation in various forms of statism
such as voting or wearing their countries’ flag. I replaced
many of my old friends whose beliefs had grown out of touch with
my own. I now had a whole world of new friends who challenge me
in a positive way. My new circle of friends adds value to my life
rather than being a constant drain on my emotions.

Thanks to the
internet, your friends are as close as you want them to be no matter
where you are. This point was driven home just a little while ago.
I had been away from one of my good Canadian friends for more than
a year but we had talked every few days via Skype and email. By
happenstance, I had a four hour stopover in his city while on my
way to Asia. Looking at my watch, and seeing that I had just enough,
time I decided to run to one of my favorite sushi restaurants…
and since I was there for such a short period I didn’t even
bother calling him. As chance would have it, as I walked to the
restaurant I saw him. We both said hi nonchalantly and kept walking
for a few seconds before we both turned around and realized that
we hadn’t actually physically seen each other in more than
a year. That’s how close we felt just via the internet.

Sometimes you
can live in the same town as your friends and never see them…
and sometimes you can be halfway around the world and see them via
the internet every day. Location is not as important as it used
to be.

5. I wish
that I had let myself be happier.

Bronnie states,
“Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their
selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to
laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

Nothing can
get you into a more open, relaxed and outgoing mode than living
in a foreign culture. By living in one culture your whole life you
get bogged down by the familiarity of it all. And you tend to get
very myopic in how you view everything. Witness any expat gathering
almost anywhere in the world and watch them laugh, drink and share
in all the enjoyments of making countless mistakes in a different
culture and having stories that will amaze your friends, wherever
they are.


I once was
told by an emergency room nurse that you can tell how someone lived
by how they die. She told me that those who did not live out their
dreams would cry in agony at their lost chance. Those who lived
out their dreams passed on in deep peace.

No matter what
your station in life, try to avoid these regrets. Unless the Buddhists
are correct, we only live once. Don’t waste your chance.

with permission from The
Dollar Vigilante

7, 2012

Berwick [send him mail]
is an anarcho-capitalist freedom fighter and Chief Editor of the
libertarian, Austrian economics grounded newsletter, The
Dollar Vigilante
. The Dollar Vigilante focuses on strategies,
investments and expatriation opportunities to survive & prosper
during and after the US dollar collapse.

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