8 Tools That Will Change Your Life: The Hold On to Your N.U.T.s Book Giveaway

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If you’re
tired of coming up short as a man, father, husband or leader, these
eight BetterMen Tools will help you to change your relationships
and your life.

The fixes may
not happen overnight. Embrace these tools and get the support you
need to bring them to your relationships. With commitment, hard
work and the courage to change, you’ll be amazed at the man
you’ve become.

So here are
the eight BetterMen Tools in a nutshell. Can you see the art to
your better manliness in these descriptions?

Tool #1:
Silence The Little Boy

Most of us
have a little boy in us. He’s the one who didn’t get the
love, attention, guidance, mothering, fathering or discipline he
should have gotten – or thinks he should have gotten –
when he was a boy. He’s also the real, wounded little boy who
was abused and who never received the help he needed to heal and
to grow up to be a healthy man. As a result, males in our society
grow up without having a clear understanding of themselves as men,
and they continue to act like needy little boys. Quit stomping your
feet through life and in your relationships. To have a successful
long-term relationship and to feel like a successful man, you’ve
got to silence the little boy.

Tool #2:
Express But Don’t Defend Your Feelings

Rather than
discussing your feelings, you simply need to communicate them. When
you learn to express your feelings without defending them, you’ll
be giving your woman what she needs, strengthening your relationship,
and feeling much more like the best man you can be. And when you
express without defending with everyone else in your life, you’ll
become a man others can count on and respect. Expressing your feelings
also helps you avoid the anger, stress, resentment, depression,
and a host of other unhealthy emotional and physical outcomes that
come with stuffing them.

Tool #3:
Cooperate Without Compromising Your N.U.T.s

Men get angry
and resentful when they agree to something that compromises who
they are, what they stand for. Men who have developed their N.U.T.s
– non-negotiable, unalterable terms, have no problem cooperating
as long as they’re not asked to compromise what’s important,
their non-negotiable, unalterable terms. Men who have not developed
their N.U.T.s are likely to not cooperate at all because they live
in constant fear of being compromised – they feel they must
defend themselves. But when a man use this Tool, he can show up
as the man he wants to be in his relationships at home, at work
and in his community.

Tool #4:
Run The Sex And Romance Departments

You had lots
of sex at the beginning of your relationship because you romanced
her and made her feel special. Now you want to have a vital sex
life but you’re too lazy for the romance? As most married men
know, that won’t work. It’s your job to run the sex and
romance departments. And when you do a good job, you’ll both
get what you want. Fear of rejection is probably the most popular
reason why men shy away from this duty. But once you learn the Tools
and have a clear vision of the relationship you want to have, you’ll
be surprised how much power you have to re-ignite the passion in
your woman and in your relationship.

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7, 2010

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