Why Do We Choose the Mate We Do? There Are New Discoveries in the Science of Attraction

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Men sniff out potential partners … it’s official. In fact, scientists have discovered that both sexes use smell as a way of finding a mate.

Researchers compared the genetic profile of 90 married couples with those of 152 random pairs of people.

The focus was on a section of DNA called MHC. Clues to which genes we carry in the MHC are found in the smell of our sweat, and married couples had more differences.

So, by picking a partner with a different smell, we are guaranteeing our children have a better immunity from disease.

And it isn’t just our smell that can determine who we pair off with.

There are literally hundreds of theories – some more scientific than others – as to why we choose a mate.

Here are some of the best … and the most ridiculous.

Girls are always warned about declaring their feelings too early in a relationship, but telling someone you really like them could make them find you more attractive.

Making eye contact and smiling have a similar effect, according to Aberdeen University psychologist Dr Ben Jones.

His study, involving 230 men and women, found such social cues, which signal how much others fancy you, play a crucial role in attraction.

Dr Jones said singletons could use his findings to help prevent wasting time chatting up people who were not interested.

In other words, avoid wasting time on attractive individuals who appear unlikely to reciprocate.

So just be up-front about your feelings and you might find the man or woman of your dreams.

Colours can change perceived attractiveness.

In his book, How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You, Dr Nicholas Boothman explained how wearing certain colours can affect the perception people have of you and make you more attractive.

Research has shown that women who wear red are perceived to be more attractive, while men who wear blue are perceived to be loyal and trustworthy, which increases their attractiveness.

Displays of altruism or selflessness towards others can be sexually attractive in a mate. This was one of the findings of a study carried out by biologists and a psychologist at the University of Nottingham.

In three studies of more than 1000 people, Dr Tim Phillips discovered that women place significantly greater importance on compassionate traits than anything else.

Participants in the studies were questioned about a range of qualities they look for in a mate, including donating blood regularly and volunteering to help out in a hospital. Women placed significantly greater importance on altruistic traits in all three studies.

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May 27, 2009