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whining child is an annoyance. When parents allow whining, it will
continue. When they tire of hearing whining, some of them capitulate
to the whiner. The whiner learns that whining pays: no negative
sanctions and occasional positive sanctions. The behavior continues.

your child whines, you must intervene with negative sanctions, beginning
no later than age three. The child learns this fact of life: whining
never gains a benefit, and it may gain a spanking. Children learn
about sanctions very early. They respond accordingly. Whining is
curable at a young age.

is now my self-appointed task to impose some negative sanctions
on a group of whiners. Someone should have done it earlier.


reader sent me a link to a most remarkable website. This site is apparently a
site devoted to whining. The whiners are all adults. They are parents
of children who are enrolled in the middle schools of Gwinnett County,
Georgia. The parents do not like the program in the local schools.

officials have implemented a pass-fail program for the 7th grade.
A student can flunk every test, fail to hand in any homework assignment,
and still get promoted to 8th grade. How? By passing a final exam.

parents are quite upset. Why? Because their children fully grasped
the implications of this system of academic sanctions. Early in
the term, they drew the correct conclusions: (1) you can slack off
all year, cram for one exam at the end, and survive; (2) if you
fail, you can go to summer school and pass.

students catch on real fast. They know they are competing against
equally lazy boneheads. The boneheads, being boneheads, will fail
the exam, leaving the bright kids afloat. The district will not
dare to fail too many students. So, the bright kids get a free ride
all year. They go into neutral and stay there.

parents have created an entire website to whine about this system
and its predictable results. “What a grotesque system! Where did
these idiot administrators get such a bonehead idea?”

suggest this answer: From Oxford and Cambridge. For centuries, these
two universities adopted a similar system of academic sanctions.
Students were not expected to attend lectures. They were not graded
for courses. They had to pass exams at the very end of their years
on campus. The results? (1) Teachers who were horrible lecturers
and rarely saw their students; (2) students who paid no attention
to course work. Adam Smith complained about this system a quarter
of a millennium ago.

parents back then whined about the curriculum, I do not know. What
I do know is that they kept sending their children through the system,
century after century, and the system did not change.

then and now, can always impose sanctions. If they do not like the
program in Gwinnett County, they can send their children to private
schools. They can teach their children at home. They can move to
a school district that offers a different program. But all this
would cost money. Parents prefer to save money. So, to prove that
they are caring parents, they whine. They whine on-line, for all
the world to see.

school administrator who visits this website knows the truth: the
kids fully understand sanctions; the parents do not. The system
will not change based on these parents’ negative sanctions.


us begin.

daughter is just finishing up 7th grade and it has been the year
from Hell! We had the worst time getting her to do her homework.
First of all, her homework didn’t count as an academic grade but
as an “effort” grade. She could work for hours on it, get it all
right and it didn’t count academically. Stupidist thing I’ve ever
heard of. In addition, this using the Gateway as the only criteria
for passing a kid on to 8th grade really sucks. We fought such
battles with her about her school work, only to find out that
it didn’t matter what she did or didn’t do and how many zeroes
she racked up… as long as she passes the Gateway she’s promoted
to 8th grade! What’s with that????

is with this is that administrators can control the pass-fail rate.
They can decide what percentage of students should stay behind.
One exam decides this, and they grade the exam accordingly. Meanwhile,
the teachers are now off the hook. “Your child refused to hand in
any assignments. Don’t blame me!” It is just like Oxford and Cambridge
used to be: no responsibility for any student’s performance, and
the money keeps rolling in.

is all about sanctions. The educators get paid. The parents in the
district must fork over the tax money by law. Whining parents get
to post their complaints on a website, and this de-fuses them. No
muss, no fuss! “Sticks and stones may break our bones, but only
funding cuts hurt us.”

makes it very difficult for parents whose kids are smart enough
to realize that their homework doesn’t count for much and that
Gateway is all that matters. We grounded her, we took fun stuff
away, we yelled, we talked softly…you name it we tried it and
the response we always got was “Don’t worry. As long as I pass
the Gateway I’ll get promoted!” We couldn’t even threaten her
with summer school because that’s reserved only for kids who don’t
pass the Gatweay…and once again all the kids know this!

bet they know it. These are bright kids. They are learning how socialism
works by going through a high-cost, low-sanctions system of education.
The bureaucrats who run the public schools are reproducing their
own kind: paid bureaucrats who do not have to meet standards set
by consumers.

only have to deal with one kid regarding this issue… I can’t
even imagine the frustration felt by 7th grade teachers! They
have to combat it times 30! I don’t think the Gateway has helped
Gwinnett County in their quest for better educated students. All
it’s done is teach kids that you can get by even if you only put
in minimal effort, as well as it’s forced teachers to “teach to
the test.”

is exactly what it teaches. Socialism does not respond to market
forces. Consumers have no authority in socialism. The system is
compulsory. Why, then, should public school students or their parents
complain when the tax-funded local monopoly school system teaches
these principles to students? The educators say, “Learn by doing!”
In the context of socialism, this means, “Learn by doing practically
nothing.” As the old workers’ slogan in the Soviet Union put it:
“They pretend to pay us, and we pretend to work.”

thinking Superintendent Wilbanks needs to re-evaluate this whole
situation. How about going back to the regular ol’ way of doing
things… you do the work, you get graded, it counts toward something
and you pass. Simple!

these parents think that the schools are run by nave fools? School
administrators know exactly what they are doing. This is an educational
system designed by administrators and teachers who did not do well
in their academic careers. Anyone who doubts this need only read
any of the books by Professor Richard Mitchell. He quotes, word
for word, publications written by professional educators. He then
compiles books filled with these choice items: The
Graves of Academe
, The
Leaning Tower of Babel
, and Less
Than Words Can Say

doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed people can change
the world. Indeed it is the only thing that ever has. — Margaret

Mead was quite correct. She did not say, however, “Never doubt that
parents who do not have enough sense to pull their kids out of the
public schools can change anything in those schools.”

are having the exact same problem with our 7th grade son. The
grades were bad all year, but once he realized that the Gateway
would get him promoted the grades dropped further. No amount of
loss priviledge made any difference. He’ll just flat out tell
you that he hates school. He’s a very smart kid, but simply refuses
to do the assignments. Last week we had a conference and it was
clear that his teachers do not believe that he should go to 8th.
However, they could not come out and say it when we asked the
question. They all just looked at each other and refused to answer.
You could tell that they have been told to not answer.

No negative sanctions. The kid has figured out how the system works.
He knows how to beat the system with the lowest possible expenditure.
Like most of us, he wants the best deal for his investment. He has
made a cost-benefit analysis based on one year of school. His parents
may think that he has failed to understand the system, but it is
they who have failed to understand the system. This is what tax-funded
education eventually becomes whenever it is granted a near-monopoly
The exceptions are institutional anomalies — rather like students
who are self-motivated enough to work hard for no visible reward.

we had the exact same problem with our daughter when she was in
the 7th grade. See this is where the problem starts — in
the first few days of there 7th grade year, a couselor comes into
the class and tells these students, that they can do nothing all
year and get complete zeros for everything, but as long as they
pass the GATEWAY they would pass to 8th grade. They have NO business
telling these kids this, because what we have had now with her
entire 8th grade year is no will to do anything, nothing but problems,
arguements about everything, no desire to complete one assignment.

audacity of these teachers! Telling the students in advance how
the system works! Telling them how it works undermines parental
authority. Never tell the complete truth to a kid. He might draw
accurate conclusions.

those of us who understand how tax-funded education works try to
tell this to parents, most parents resent it. They do not like the
conclusions that are logically drawn from such an analysis, especially
this one: “Pull your child out of the system before he is destroyed.”
That one costs extra money. Parents prefer not to be told about

day is a fight about homework and to turn in class assignments
to actually get a grade. So now she is on the verge of failing
8th grade without going to summer school and I blame a lot of
this on our wonderful school system. Of all people, they should
know you can NEVER let up on a child, but by telling them they
can sit and do nothing all year is for the birds!!!!!!! So these
actions carried right over ot her 8th grade year and the teachers
tell me they have major problems now with most 8th graders because
they were allowed to do nothing for their entire 7th grade year!!!!!!
What are we teaching these kids!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I will tell you — — —
BE LAZY, it will get you to GREAT places in life!!!! “NOT”

are we teaching these kids? First, the schools are teaching them
that they do not have to produce anything of value in order to survive
in a tax-funded, bureaucratic organization. The teachers learned
this when they majored in education, and they have the paychecks
to prove it. Second, the parents are teaching them that if it costs
extra money to buy something better, do not pay it. Let the kids
pay the price for a rotten education by forfeiting the time lost
in tax-funded institutions.

parent has figured it out. She stands alone.

have 2 daughters in Gwinnett County schools right now. This summer,
I am home-summer-schooling both of them…I can tell you, my oldest
will most likely finish 5th grade at Dacula Elem and then I am
homeschooling her for 6th grade on, unless they give me any more
reasons to pull her out earlier next year. She makes excellent
scores on CRCT and they sent a letter saying “It looks like she
passed the Gateway”, they recommend her for gifted every year
based on her testing scores.

she cannot spell worth a carp, do simple math (she still counts
on her fingers for basic addition and subtraction), or easily
tell time on a clock with hands. Every homework assignment she
brought home this year was a chore for us, because we were having
to RETEACH each math concept as she learned it. Their math book
has more pictures in it than it does actual math problems.

am so fed up with public school. I would encourage you to read
some essays by John Taylor Gatto, 1991 Teacher of the Year in
New York City, who quit because of his disdain for what really
goes on in government schools.

agree. The website of John Taylor Gatto is an excellent place
to begin.


children are fast learners. They have figured out how the system
works. It is their parents who are in need of remedial education.

26, 2005

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